EP:3 The Mind of an Abuser, How does it work? Decoding Domestic Violence

INTRODUCTION : DECODING THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

In this podcast, join Iti Rawat, founder of the Red Dot Initiative, as we unravel the silent epidemic of domestic violence. With a focus on ‘Decoding the Domestic Violence,’ we explore its various forms, shed light on the psychology of an abuser, and discuss ways to prevent and heal, drawing from the experiences of supporting and rescuing over 500 victims since the pandemic began.

Understanding Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse isn’t limited to just physical violence; it encompasses emotional, financial, and sexual abuse as well. It’s prevalent across different socioeconomic strata, including educated individuals. Recent high-profile cases have exposed the ugly truth that domestic violence knows no bounds and threatens our culture and traditions.

What Drives an Abuser to Inflict Harm?

Abusers view their victims as extensions of themselves, not as separate individuals. When their expectations aren’t met, they resort to punishment. Their fragile egos can’t handle criticism, even constructive, and they quickly feel insulted. Abusers often perceive themselves as perfectionists and can’t tolerate imperfections. Any failure, real or perceived, becomes the victim’s fault. They resort to tactics like silent treatment, gaslighting, and taking control.

Are Abusers Fearless?

Contrary to popular belief, abusers are not fearless; they fear tarnishing their public image. They manipulate victims into isolation, discouraging them from confiding in friends or family. They enforce submission and privacy, masking their abusive behavior.

Recognizing Abusers’ Emotional Patterns

Abusers are typically anxious individuals whose emotions manifest as physical and verbal abuse. They employ control tactics like name-calling and shaming, both privately and publicly.